Dr. told Dad he was no longer allowed to drive, which very much upset him. He was convinced that Mom, Adam and I were over-reacting and that the doctor would take his side.
I have talked to our Area Agency on Aging and they are going to help us with figuring out what he qualifies for and how to make sure he gets the right type of care, especially if we have to place him in a facility, we need to make sure we are meeting his needs in the best way possible. I am hoping that is down the road, but we may need to do it soon, at least temporarily, to possibly try some new medications and therapies, and see what he best responds to.
He talked to me yesterday when his fog seemed to have somewhat lifted, and he was nice and told me he loved me, which is something he hasn't done in over a week and I've seen him several times. Later, however, he was being very adamant that he did not want me to come over to their house. He left me a voicemail, called me in person, and then called Adam to make sure I was not going to come over. Worried, we called Mom, who was fine but had no idea why it was such a big deal that he didn't want to see me.
We're still just taking it one day at a time, and Mom is taking the brunt of it. He gets very angry at her for no apparent reason, and when you ask him why he's angry, he doesn't even know. The other day, he asked her to bring him a drink from the kitchen, and while she was in there, she asked if he wanted anything else. He became angry and snapped at her that if he did, he could get it himself and she needed to stop treating him like an invalid who can't do anything for himself. He was angry for the rest of the day over that, and he was the one who had asked her for help in the first place!! It's those situations that are so very frustrating and heartbreaking all at once, and they happen all day long lately.
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